Making New Friends

I was just talking about this very thing with someone the other day. Making new friends is an important part of life. For some of us, our friends are the most important part of our lives. You can’t make new friends sitting in front of a computer screen, sitting in front of a TV screen. How do you make new friends? How do you make ANY friends?

Get out. Join a club. Find a group with like minded interests. If you’re a writer, join a writer’s group. If you’re a photographer, find a photography group. If there’s not one in your area, start one yourself. Be assertive. There’s gotta be something you enjoy doing. Find a way to make that work for you. Don’t be reluctant to step up and make the first move.

When you walk into the room for the first time, scope it out. There’ll be someone in that room you feel an instant connection with. There always is. Walk over to them and introduce yourself. Chances are that same person is feel the connection too, but they are not assertive enough to step up. This person could wind up being your friend the rest of your life. What are you waiting for? Get out there.

I have such a diverse group of friends right now and it is because I’ve never been afraid to step up. Moving around as much as I did growing up strengthened my assertiveness. If I wanted to have ANY friends it was up to me to make the first move. I could have very easily shrunk away and used the fact that I moved so often as an excuse not to make any friends. I chose to do the opposite and find the good in the difficult. The fact that I moved so often gave the opportunity to become more assertive.

If you’re having a difficult time in your life, a new friend might just be the cure. Just remember, all of the friends you have now were once new friends. What’s more important to you? Staying home and wallowing, or getting out and having some fun?

Want to see another perspective on making new friends? Check out Vanessa’s Optimal Optimist

Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!

Chris

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3 responses to “Making New Friends

  1. >Beautiful, make friends, virtual or no, it's really important, thanks friend for share this with us.

  2. >Hey Chris,Thanks for stopping by my blog's "Birthday" post and leaving such a thoughtful comment. I left you a little response on the post if you'd like to check it out. Your post today is just wonderful- and you're so right about what an important part friends play in our lives. I tend not to be so assertive, but it's something I'm working on, because I know the value of being able to get out there, meet new people and make great connections. Thanks for helping me realize just how important it is. I'm glad we could connect and I look forward to reading more of your posts!Keep Smiling,Vanessa from Optimal Optimist

  3. >Friends. Aside from your family they really define the quality of your life, as one good friend once told me. I have to say though as I'm getting older and all mr friends are married with children, I still have very good friends, although not so many now to go out and do things with – like going to the pub, cinema, eating etc etc. So I've found myself using sites like http://www.drinkingpartners.com, facebook, meetup, etc which are great to a certain extent, but I've also been quite successful going to the gym most nights. It's really hard to approach someone unless they're in the same position as you (a lot will be) but I think that if you work on all avenues ie gyms, clubs, family, websites etc and make effort and don't be afraid to ask or question, you should make plenty of friends.

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